For Prosfective Bride

O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. …

A mother's advise: O my daughter, you are about to
leave the home in which you
grew up, where you first learned
to walk, to go to a place you do
not know, to a companion with
whom you are unfamiliar.
************
Take from me ten qualities,
which will be a provision and a
reminder for you.
************
The first and second of them are:
be content in his company, and
listen to and obey him, for
contentment brings peace of
mind, and listening to and
obeying one's husband pleases
Allah.
************
The third and fourth of them are:
make sure that you smell good
and look good; he should not see
anything ugly in you, and he
should not smell anything but a
pleasant smell from you. Kohl is
the best kind of beautification to
be found, and water is better
than the rarest perfume.
************
The fifth and the sixth of them
are: prepare his food on time,
and keep quiet when he is
asleep, for raging hunger is like a
burning flame, and disturbing his
sleep will make him angry.
************
The seventh and eighth of them
are: take care of his servants (or
employees) and children, and
take care of his wealth, for taking
care of his wealth shows that you
appreciate him, and taking care
of his children and servants
shows good management.
************
The ninth and tenth of them are:
never disclose any of his secrets,
and never disobey any of his
orders, for if you disclose any of
his secrets you will never feel
safe from his possible betrayal,
and if you disobey him, his heart
will be filled with hatred towards
you.
************
KNOW, O my daughter that you
will not achieve what you would
like to until you put his pleasure
before your own, and his wishes
before yours, in whatever you
like and dislike.
************

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THE OLD SOCKA wise and saintly rich man, sensing his approaching death, called his son to his side and gave him these instructions: "My son, I shall be leaving you very shortly. On the day when I die, and they have washed my body and come to wrap it in the shroud, I want you to put one of my socks on my foot. This is my final request of you." Soon after this, the old man did indeed die, leaving behind his goods and property, his children and his dependents. Family, friends, acquaintances and neighbours attended his funeral. The body had been washed and was almost completely wrapped in the shroud, when the son remembered his father's wish. Finding one of his old socks, he handed it to the washer of the dead, saying, "In accordance with my father's last request, please put this sock on his foot." "That is quite impossible:" Said the man. “Such a thing is utterly impermissible in Islam. I cannot act against the Sacred Law." Despite this valid objection, the son insisted, “That was my father's final request; it must certainly be carried out." The washer of the dead was unmoved. "If you won't… Read more »
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"If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (i.e. Ramadan), guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, 'Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.'" [Sahih Al-Bukhari] Devotion and Obedience to Allah such that she fulfills His rights, such as the prayer, fasting, chastity covering herself, withholding her gaze and so on. Obedience to Her Husband in that which does not involve disobedience to Allah such that she fulfills his rights completely. Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to other than Allah, I would have ordered the woman to prostrate to her husband. By Him in whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, the woman will not fulfill the rights of her Lord until she fulfills the rights of her husband; and even if he were to request her for herself (i.e. to have intercourse with her) whilst she was sitting upon a camel's saddle, she should not refuse him." [Sahih, reported by Ibn Majah and Ahmad from Abdullah ibn Awfa] That She Guards and Preserves Herself and Her Honor, in the Absence of Her Husband,… Read more »
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Allahu Akbar.May Allalh reward you abondantly.amin

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:happy: Ameen!

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Tips on how to save a sour marital relationship in the Nigerian context The truth is that there are a lot of couples out there that are just enduring their relationship. Maybe because they dont want the stigma of being called a divorcee or they just dont want to quit the marriage, or they are Godly people who believe that somehow it can still work. Well i have news for you..it really can still work provided you are willing to put in the work.First I want to say that there is no relationship that does not require work from both partners. That is why when two people want to get married, they are asked about their commitment to the relationship viz "do you promise to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in riches and in poverty etc etc till death do you part?". The usual answer without a second thought to it (you should have done that before that time anyway) is "i do", "I do". Well I know a lot of folks will say no dont include those "poverty….sickness" part. If you are real with yourself, you would know, regardless of… Read more »
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RIGHTS OF A WIFEThe Qur’an states: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs for people who reflect." (30:21)Marriage is therefore not just a physical or emotional necessity but, in fact, a sign from God! It is a relationship of mutual rights and obligations based on divine guidance. God created men and women with complimentary natures and, in the Qur’an, He laid out a system of laws to support harmonious interaction between the sexes. "…They are your garments and you are their garments." (2:187)Clothing provides physical protection and covers the beauty and faults of the body. Likewise, a spouse is viewed this way. Each protects the other and hides the faults and compliments the characteristics of the spouse. To foster the love and security that comes with marriage, Muslim wives have various rights. The first of the wife’s rights is to receive mahr, a gift from the husband, which is part of the marriage contract and required for the legality of the marriage. The second right of a wife is maintenance. Despite… Read more »
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FEW WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND1. Discover his favorite pet name and call himby that.2. Allow him exercise his authority as thehead of the family.3. DO not challenge him when he is hurt.4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go backto him in his sober moment with apology nexplain why you behave that way thatannoyed him.5. Be quick to say " I am sorry dear". Whenever you offend him pettingly, insist on hisforgiveness, appreciate and kiss him when hedoes.6. Speak good of him before his Friends andsiblings.7. Honor his mother8. Insist that he buys gift for his parents andso be sure that he will do same for yourparents9. Surprise him with his favorite dishespecially when he has no enough money athand and never delay his food.10. Do not allow the maid to serve him foodwhen you are at home. Because u may losehim to them.11. Give him a warm reception with anembrace when he returns, collect his luggageand help undress him.12. Smile when you look at him and give himoccasional pecks when you are out socially.13. Praise him before your childrensometimes.14. Wash his back while he is in the tub orshower.15. Put love note in his lunch box… Read more »
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Why I did Get Married!♥ Because I want my eyes to see someone special, someone halaal, knowing that she is my gift from ALLAH.♥ Because I want someone who loves ALLAH and loves me because he loves ALLAH.♥ Because I want somebody to share my happiness and praise ALLAH with me, someone to cry my tears with me and make du’ah with me and someone to love and love ALLAH with me. ♥ Because I want to have children of my own to love and care and share with a gift from ALLAH. ♥ Because I want to share ALLAH’s beautiful creations and praise His names with someone who ALLAH has fated to be with me since I was born. ♥ Because verily, with a halaal partner, my life and everything I do with my spouse will be halaal in the eyes of ALLAH. ♥ Because I am a gift from ALLAH to someone and I want to let him feel ALLAH’s love through me.

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http://natlusmiles.blogspot.com/Muslim identity Name: Muslim Surname: Muslim Fathers Name: Adam Mothers name: Eve Place of origin: Citizens of the world Occupation: Path of Allah Religious sect: Mohammed religious order Temperament: brothers coterie Nationality: Hanif ' Race: Human Country: where is the master of Allah Target: ALLAHs forhttp://youtu.be/4nEMDKzDFQI Hanif ^ ': a pure Islamic Monotheism (worshiping ALLAH alone and nothing else)http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hanif Use of the term 'hanif' In the Qur'anhttp://www.islamicity.com/MOSQUE/ARABICSCRIPT/AYAT/2/2_135.htm English (Yusuf Ali): (Recite) 2:135 They say: "Become Jews or Christians if ye would be guided (To salvation)." Say thou: "Nay! (I would rather) the Religion of Abraham the True, and he joined not gods with Allah." Turkish: 2:135 Dediler ki: "Yahudi veya Hristiyan olun ki hidayete eresiniz." De ki: "Hayir, (dogru yol) Hanif (muvahhid) olan Ibrahim'in dini(dir); O müsriklerden degildi." French: 2:135 Ils ont dit: "Soyez Juifs ou Chrétiens, vous serez donc sur la bonne voie". – Dis: "Non, mais suivons la religion d'Abraham, le modèle même de la droiture et qui ne fut point parmi les Associateurs". German: 2:135 Und sie sprechen: "Werdet Juden oder Christen, auf daß ihr rechtgeleitet seiet." Sprich: "Nein, (folget) dem Glauben Abrahams, des Aufrichtigen; er war keiner der Götzendiener." Spanish: 2:135 Dicen: "Si sois judíos o… Read more »
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Respect A Woman because:You can feel her INNOCENCE in the form of a daughterYou can feel her CARE in the form of a sisterYou can feel her WARMTH in the form of a friendYou can feel her PASSION in the form of a belovedYou can feel her DEDICATION in the form of a wifeYou can feel her DIVINITY in the form of a motherYou can feel her BLESSING in the form of a grandmotherYet she is so TOUGH tooHer heart is so TENDER… So NAUGHTY… So CHARMING… So SHARING… So MELODIOUSShe is a WOMAN.. And she is LIFE..!!!To all the wonder women & those men who thinks that a woman is weak, who disrespect her, abuse her, beats her up & pass dirty comments if any passes by him.They somewhat forget that the one who gave birth to a non-deserving creep like him is also a woman..!

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